I invite you to IMAGINE what it would be like if our babies were born into a world and where they didn’t have to deal with their parents “stuff” and were SEEN for the magnificent being that they are from the very beginning!
Think of all the money you would’ve saved on therapy if your parents had resolved some of their life issues!
I’ve been working with adults for well over a decade and the underlying issue for most isthey have never been SEEN and felt invisible. They have struggled in the areas of SELF-ACCEPTANCE, SELF-WORTH and SELF-LOVE.
When we follow the energetic thread, it is not uncommon to find that the energy brings us back to our pre-verbal experiences that started in utero or before. Baby is a sentient being that remembers, they may not have the language to share their experience, but their energetic body holds the imprints.
HOW TRAUMA IMPACTS YOUR BIRTH
Several years ago, I was presenting at a Human Design Conference on birth trauma. After the presentation, this woman came up to me and asked if I could join her for dinner. She shared that she and her husband had two children. They had adopted a son when he was just a few months old. He had many relationship problems growing up. As parents, they had tried everything for their son, yet he never felt loved. There were problems at home, at school and now at work and in his current relationships.
We continued to talk about the importance of a baby being SEEN and recognized as a sentient being right from the get go. How important bonding is and how we relate in the world. She shared how their relationship was challenging and they hadn’t been in touch for a while.
The next morning, she sees me in the hotel restaurant and comes running over, so excited and says, “Suzanne, you’ll never guess what happened last night”! She continues….. “My son called me and he said, “I want to Facetime with you”. She was blown away. He said, “I want to SEE your face, I want you to SEE me”. He shared that no one had SEEN him before and he wanted her to SEE him as he is.
Needless to say, we were both in tears. Neither one of us knew that the outcome of our conversation would open the door for their relationship to improve and consequently so would his other relationships.
This work is important, because some aspect of baby REMEMBERS!